I cook at home because of restaurant prices and tip culture. Driving everywhere sucks. Everything feels miles away so good luck walking.

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    Work and shared hobbies. I recently went to buy some hardwood from a work colleague. We don’t even work the same shift but they’re fond of asking what I’m building or showing me what they’re building because who else are they going to talk to about their hobby (I imagine).

    We’re not friends, but there’s this hobby. I get there and it’s not a mere business transaction nor do we talk work. It almost had a kid feel to it. Like when you crossed the hedge to the yard of the kid next door and he welcomes you because it’s more fun if you can show off and share your toys. Only as adults. Kudos on reclaiming a small piece of that.

    Adulthood is such a roadblock sometimes.

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          I just woke up from a nap, and now I’m eating cookies. Don’t have any juice boxes on hand tho; a can of cola will have to do.

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        I love being an adult. It’s amazing.

        I absolutely hated Kindergarten. Being subjected to the whims of clueless adults is miserable.

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          Being subjected to the whims of clueless adults is miserable.

          Sounds exactly like adult life with a job when you phrase it that way.

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                yeah it is. nobody is forcing you to work a crappy job you don’t like, other than yourself.

                lots of people choose that life, and pretend like they don’t have any other choice. and settle into a life of bitterness and anger and usually a toxic coping mechanism that deprives them of what little disposable income they do have. like alcohol, gambling, or similar.

                if you want to improve your life you have to give up the coping mechanisms, save your money, and invest in yourself. but that is hard and most would rather daydream about a big magic pile of money falling from the sky.

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                  Many people live in towns with fewer than five companies, with poor internet access. Many people have to keep odd schedules because of family care obligations. Many people are functionally illiterate. Many people have criminal convictions. There are a lot of things that can limit your ability to leave a job you already have.

                  Many people do accept work conditions worse than they have to, but not every worker is flexible enough to choose their work.

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                    Then they have to move. They have to learn to read. They have to change their circumstances. Nobody is going to change it for them.

                    I grew up in a small crappy town. I decided from a young age I would leave my community. It sucked. I hated my life there. It was a great motivation to get out, succeed, and never come back. I watched several of my friends make difference choices and move home even if they left and never leave and repeat the same miserable lives their parents lead.

                    It’s a choice. You can make excuses for yourself your entire life, or you can make choices to change your life.

                    I felt trapped too when I was in that town. But I knew nobody was ever going to save me. but I could save myself, so that’s what I did. And yes, i got punished by parents, my friends, by my former teachers, for being ‘arrogant’ and ‘a douchebag’ for wanting to improve my life and not settle for their miserable existences.

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              If you genuinely believe this (i personally think you’re trolling), then you need to take a step back, look at your situation, and recognize how privileged you are.

              A significant amount of problems in the world would be helped by The Privileged recognizing that their life is not representative of the lives of everyone else.

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                Nothing is more privileged than expecting other people to improve your life for you. That’s actually the philosophy of most wealthy people, that everyone else should do shit for them, while they sit around and jerk themselves off about how great they are.

                The irony of this whole discourse is that basically you think everyone should have the privileges of the wealthy, but you also think the wealthy shouldn’t have the privileges they do. And you don’t see the contradiction.

                I wasn’t wealthy. I worked my ass off. I’ve also seen people with way more money than me piss their lives away. Most of the most bitter losers I have ever known had trust funds.

                What you don’t understand is that the difference isn’t money, or privilege. It’s attitude. You want to shit on some hardworking aspring immigrant kid as a privileged twat for achieving their goals, and stupidly assume that the drugged party person somehow should have the same success in life, because nobody is responsible for themselves.

                Or maybe worse, you see people who worked their way out of the working-class drudgery into a secure middle-class or upper-class existence as ‘traitors’. Yeah, my entire family and friend thought I was a traitor too when I was growing up, because I wanted something better than living in a rural backwater place.

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                  lol I’m not reading this novel.

                  There are millions of people who work shitty factory jobs so we can order our trinkets off Amazon and i care much more about them and their problems than privileged idiots.
                  Those people are the ones thay deserve life improvements, not the “grindset” “alpha males” that make the “bootstraps” talking points.

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                    And there are millions of immigrants working in farm labor under much worse conditions for musch worse pay, do you feel worse for them?

                    From their POV the shitty factor job would be a huge upgrade.

                    And for those factory works, being an Amazon picker would be a huge upgrade.

                    Your issue is that labor exists, it sounds like.

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          At least in Kindergarten I didn’t know they were clueless. Now I’m an adult subjected to their whims and know they’re unstoppable idiots.