Find a way to make it easier to do. I wanted to eat healthier, I started ordering meal kits so I can cook healthy meals more easily. I wanted to exercise more, I bought an exercise bike and use it while watching TV and movies
Basically a three step process.
1.) Ingest caffeine.
2.) Put on Highway Star by Deep Purple. Big headphones to drown out distractions.
3.) Take a couple breaths to focus, then buckle in for the ride
This is called being an adult.
You grow up. That’s what you do. You realize your actions have consequences and you decide you don’t want to face the negative consequences of bad habits.
Making it through life is mostly forcing yourself to do things you don’t wanna do.
Don’t focus on the task, focus on step one in accomplishing the task and do that as it’s probably small
E.g
put on my running shoes and clothes instead of thinking of going for a run
Log on to the server instead of debugging the application logs
Pick up the weight instead of doing 3 sets
Focusing on the small first step instead of the daunting big task makes it easier to get started
Yep that’s how I make myself workout. I don’t have to work out, I just have to step inside the gym. I’m allowed to leave right after (I never do).
Bravo
ADHD medication
Before this it was anger
I used fear/anxiety. Adderall works much better, and I have greatly reduced blood pressure.
Cleaning only works when I start the moment I get home from work. Otherwise I’m too spent to do anything meaningful.
That’s what has been working for me as of lately. When I get home, first thing is do the deed. Then I can rest.
I clean when my apartment is dirty.
I don’t. “Good for you” isn’t good enough for doing something I don’t want to do. It has to be absolutely necessary.
You start before the brain finds out what’s going on, or depending on your perspective, you start before the rest of the body realises what is happening.
You don’t talk, you don’t think, you don’t plan. Only do.
Hard as fuck to get there, at least for me, but it works great.
Stop self-talking, that’s the basis of so much anxiety and all dread, which is always worse than just doing the thing, more suffering by trying to avoid the original suffering. Stupid brain.
Let your body get up and go do the thing without your mind fucking it up. It’s called “behavioral activation” and it even works.
I don’t. I tell my wife that I’ll do X by this day. Once there’s a deadline involved, even if it’s the last minute, I will do it to avoid disappointing my wife.
This describes me too well and I don’t like it xD
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Be kind to your future self. You know them better than anyone, and you know they work hard enough already. Do them a favor every once in a while and see how good it feels to help them out.
This is my answer. I love making future me happy. When I dump the laundry on the bed in the morning with the intention of coming home and putting it away after work, I think of how happy future me will be with current me if I just take the 10 minutes now to get 'er done. Crazy how often it works…
Dumb as hell but I tell myself “nothin’ to it but to do it”, and then I do the thing. Like ripping it off like a bandaid.
That’s similar to a technique that is counting 3 2 1 and simply get up and do it
Yup. Very similar. I quiet the voice in my head saying “I’m too tired” or whatever with “ignore it and just get to it”.
I’ve got a similar mantra - “it’s not hard, I just have to do it”. And then when it’s done I follow up with a “see, not hard, just had to actually do it”
I dont - I need to be pushed. My wife is really supportive and great for that. For health, just visiting a doctor is enough to scare me straight
Most of the time the activity doesn’t actually take much time. The older I get, the faster time seems to pass and I have awareness of this fast-time-passing. So instead of avoiding the thing for hours, I just do it instead and am actually fully done with the activity in usually less than an hour. After that you can pat yourself on the back saying that you’re an adult and you took care of an adult responsibility, but truly you are self-aware enough to know you were one tiny breath away from skipping it to do something time-wasting or irresponsible instead. For one more day you get to live the illusion you’re and adult and you can take care of your adult responsibilities.
If you do this more often than not, you actually are an adult and actually do take care of your adult responsibilities on regular basis.
Once you figure it out, report back
