I swear, when someone’s talking to me now, I can barely understand what’s happening. I know I’m no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it’s like it’s a memory or like I’m at the back of my head. It’s hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I’m not looking forward to my 40’s…
That being said I feel like I’m making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining
I’m not sure how useful replying to your post is because everytime someone replies you don’t listen to what they are saying and just tell them you’ve done everything that can be done and they didn’t understand that there’s nothing that anyone can do because you’ve already seen doctors and they can’t find anything wrong.
However, I’m going to try anyway.
Without trying to diagnose you, I’m just going to share personal experiences.
First, an easy one:
I thought things I was feeling in my 30’s was just aging, then I had a doctor say something was wrong, tested my thyroid, and diagnosed Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis. Before you react and say “They tested my TSH and it’s normal!”, I’m not talking about you, I’m talking about me. I thought my symptoms were because of aging, but discovered that was bullshit.
Next, a much more difficult one:
My wife started having symptoms in her 20’s. Not your symptoms, her symptoms. She started seeing doctors. Sometimes doctors would try things, sometimes they would tell her she should see a shrink.
She did see shrinks, multiple times. They told her she didn’t have any mental illness and she should go back to looking for a medical solution.
Her issues progressed. She couldn’t work anymore and had to sell her optometry practice and go on disability. She continued to search for a doctor who could help. She did her own research to learn about what could be happening. She started teaching her doctors about what was wrong.
We saw doctors up and down the east coast. We went to Johns Hopkins. We went to NIH facilities. We flew across the country to see a doctor in LA. Some doctors came up with things that helped a bit. Some tried for a long time, but then ran out of ideas and gave up. No one had a permanent solution.
Our youngest child, in her 20’s, went to see a doctor about joint pain. That doctor tested her for something and the test came back positive. That disorder is genetic, and it matched some of my wife’s symptoms. My wife got tested, and her test was positive. Now she gets a treatment for that and it is starting to help. She can walk more, do more. She’s started to imagine she might be able to do things like drive a car again.
My wife has been seeing doctors about her health problems for longer than you have been alive. Ultimately, it was a doctor treating our daughter who identified the test she needed. No other doctor in more than 30 years thought of that test.
My point is, when people tell you you have to see other doctors, YOU HAVE TO SEE OTHER DOCTORS. When people tell you to do more tests, YOU HAVE TO DO MORE TESTS. If you give up, no one is going to help you. Stop whining about how hopeless it is, get off your ass, and do the hard work of taking charge of your healthcare.
Please learn from my spouse.
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Vomiting in the morning may be a sign of Helicobacter pylori infection. Not everyone is affected the same way, and it’s a very common infection. My spouse and BIL both had it. He got ulcers. She vomited every morning. 2 weeks of big deal antibiotics ended it for both of them. Life has been better ever since.
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Early Perimenopause can and does happen to some people AFAB. But everyone AFAB will experience it one day. The Ologies podcast did 3 episodes recently about menopause and perimenopause. Please listen! Even if you aren’t in it now, one day you will be. Might as well learn about it since you’ll have to advocate for yourself to doctors.
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dont forgetting gaining weight with 100mph
Not that I’m taking this thread very seriously based on the other comments… but other than seeing a doctor, have you tried the obvious things? The things you are describing are not a 30 year old thing. You are way too young to attiribute all of those things to age.
- Exercise (very important). Get your steps in. Get a watch or something and count em.
- Eat a proper, balanced diet. Don’t calorie load before bed, eat throughout the day.
- Go to bed at a decent hour, whatever that is for you. Make sure you are getting at least 8 hours. Women typically need a little more.
I’ve known a few people that have all your symptoms, and the common denominator is that they are all extremely sedentary and take 0 accountability for their own health. They somehow expect a doctor to fix a problem only they can solve with the things I mentioned above.
If you’ve been seeing a doctor for years and aren’t doing any of the things I’ve mentioned, you are wasting your time.
Just to add: half of those symptoms sounds like a seasoned alcoholic.
Sound more like plus middle age, go to the doctor.
Anybody else got a Déja-Vu? I remember some months ago some person describing these kind of symptoms and all the comments told OP that’s bs. Then OP said they did all tests and everybody was wrong. I was here before!
But she’s a woman so it’s anxiety, innit.
I got a déjà-vu from last week. Same person I think, but I’m not a 100% certain since they deleted their old posts. They’ve already been told extensively that this is not age related.
At this point I’m thinking dementia or some other neurological issues.
This just seems like good old cognitive dissonance to me. This article calls this specific kind of cognitive dissonance “belief perseverance”, which seems very apt: https://philosophy.institute/epistemology/addressing-unjustified-beliefs/
*A reasonable question arises: if unjustified beliefs are so clearly at odds with the evidence, why don’t people simply change their minds when confronted with facts? The answer lies in understanding that rational belief revision is not merely a matter of receiving new information. It requires that the evidence be recognized as relevant, assessed without distortion, and allowed to actually alter the existing belief structure – each of which is complicated by the mechanisms described above.
Confirmation bias means that contradictory evidence may not even be registered at full strength. The availability heuristic means that striking supporting examples continue to feel more representative than they are. And the psychological costs of belief revision – the discomfort of cognitive dissonance, the threat to identity – create a strong motivational force pushing back against change.*
The entire article is well worth a read imo.
just throwing this out there but have you got Sleep Apnea? The vomiting doesn’t match but maybe there are several things going on. I’m sorry there hasn’t been an answer for you; while I can’t empathize with your exact conditions I can empathize with being told “everything is fine” when it most certainly isn’t. Keeping my toes and fingers crossed for you.
get checked for a UTI STAT. that is not aging.
I’m well past that age and im not experiencing even half of what you listed there. go see a doctor. like now.
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I’m about to turn 40, no one I know has experienced this at 30, much less 40. You have something else going on, this isn’t aging, like we have all told you before.
Nothing is going on. I’ve had tests done and seen several doctors, nothing’s wrong.
The fact that you have these symptoms indicates something is going on. If the tests say everything is normal, then they are missing something
So much was tested and I’ve listed off the top of my head a bunch of things that were tested. What do you suppose they could be missing?
Without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
None of these tests would have anything to do with gut disease, for example
I already read what you just copy and pasted. I’m not a doctor. I don’t know what is wrong with you. But if they run tests and tell you everything is normal, then the appropriate response is to say “I don’t care if the tests say everything is normal, I still feel like shit.”
I’d say “I’m being silly and need to get on with it. Even my family have told me to stop complaining about my health.”
Of course your family has told you to stop complaining. Hearing someone moan about their poor health is annoying and boring. We don’t want to hear about it either, hence all the comments you are getting here telling you to stop making posts trying to normalize your clearly abnormal condition. We don’t know what is wrong with you and can’t help you. You need to see a doctor. If the doctor tells you everything is normal, tell the doctor that they suck big fat donkey dick at doing their job and tell them to refer you to a doctor who isn’t phoning it in.
Changing doctors won’t change the fact the lab results will keep coming back normal, as they have done over and over and over since summer last year.
Have you seen a psychologist? Might also be somatizing of mental issues. Some symptoms there are symptoms of mental illness. How’s your general lifestyle and diet?
You’ve already made a similar post and people have told you to go see a doctor. What more do you want?
I’ve seen many doctors, though.
Then maybe stop eating celery at 7 degrees?
If you have the ability to see other and new doctors you should take the opportunity to do so. No doctor has ever told you this is normal for being in your 30s
They’ve ran loads of bloodwork tests on me. Only thing that came back low is my white cells, but I was told that’s normal because as you age your immune system declines, after your teenage years.
Bloodwork doesn’t show everything. You’re being gaslit because you’re a woman.
The gaslighting is doctors generally when faced with something they can’t explain.
This is not normal for women in their 30s.
Tell that to the several doctors who ran bloodwork tests on me and assured me everything’s normal.
It’s not normal. They’re missing something.
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
What do you suppose they are missing? There’s very little to miss, it would seem.
See a doctor - this ain’t normal
I have, and was told everything’s normal. I’ve had full blood counts, hormone tests, vitamin and mineral tests, the works.
After your latest post i think i know what is wrong. You need to stop staying awake all night. Humans need to sleep.
Tell Thai Ngoc that.
And there is a family in the USA with a genetic abnormality that gives them nearly unbreakable bones. Does that mean everyone should have unbreakable bones?
Get used to that. Doctors didn’t care about any of my symptoms until I could no longer walk. They only care about what they can see
It’s not about what they can see. I’ve had bloodwork done, and I’ve seen the lab results for myself since I requested to have them printed. I’m no longer going to pursue this because at this point it’ll be like I’m a hypochondriac unhealthily obsessed with her health. I’ve got other things to do in my life. I just need to get on with it and cope with it.
Surely you must understand that the most basic blood tests can’t find everything that can be wrong. There are thousands of tests
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
The standard lab ranges are defined by “at least some people don’t show symptoms of deficiencies or issues or etc at these levels,” not “everyone is guaranteed to be fine in these ranges.” I was “in range” with B12 until I started developing nerve damage from a deficiency of it, with years of symptoms leading up to it that were ignored because I was “in range.” I was “in range” with folate, because the standard lab tests inactive folic acid and not active folate. I was “in range” with ferritin, and yet had significant improvement from taking more iron. I was “in range” with potassium and then ended up in the ER multiple times from hypokalaemia so bad that I could barely move.
You get the idea. “In range” is not the same as “will get no benefit from supplementing it,” but it’s the kind of thing that ideally is done with proper medical assistance if you think you’re deficient in things.
If you’re a hypochondriac, it’s because you’re inventing these symptoms. If you actually have them, it’s an actual problem.
Hypochondria can also include having normal symptoms but making them out to be more of a big deal than what they really are. For example, there’s lots of men who will call a cold “man flu”. That’s a form of hypochondria since most people get colds but deal with them.
“Man flu” is something women say, not men. It’s because many women think men are ridiculous for feeling like they’re dying when they are sick, thinking it shows that they’re weak. It’s ridiculous and as already said there’s evidence that men do get a lot worse than women do in many cases.
There’s more recent evidence that men’s immune systems can be more deeply impacted by flu viruses, causing aches and pains all over their bodies that women don’t usually experience.
Its more than that. Women have a significantly better immune system, and I’m jealous up until the massively increased likelihood of autoimmune disease. Almost all autoimmune diseases occur in women. OP should really look into autoimmune issues.
I know a 20yo woman who has advanced MS with similar symptoms to what she has.
That’s gonna eat into your mental health in the long term. Better be careful!
I’ll be strong.
I don’t have a solution, but just wanted to say that doctors can be very unreliable.
I’ve been told that I’m the textbook case of a healthy man in my late 20s, all the while suffering from balance issues, surprise naps, confusion, weakness, and inability to properly parse speech some 1-4 days of the week.
Obviously one should still listen to the doctors, for who else can we rely on, but to me your situation sounds very “normal” which is definitely not a good thing!
Perhaps get a second opinion by a private doctor? I’m considering it by now…
Best of luck!
And it took me twelve years to get treatment for andometriosis after monthtly crippling pain. It took me another seven for an ADHD diagnosis. Doctors are mostly shit, especially to women.
You want support for this? Fine. But stop phrasing it like it’s a normal part of aging as a woman.
I dunno if you want a reply from a guy.
I am on meds that have some wild side effects, I know what they are and I can deal with them on small amounts.
At no point have I dealt with more than 2 of them at once.
At no point are they any where near anything you have described.
If they were, I would complain and hopefully change meds or change doctor.You need to continue getting help.
You need to get medical help. Professional help. Not Fediverser.Some of these may be “normal” (I dunno, I ain’t a gal), but all together they are not. And they are affecting your life , so SOMETHING is wrong.
You have enough of a list (as well as enough conviction to argue against the popular comments)… Sounds like you have enough evidence and conviction to find a doctor that can actually help you.
Keep trying, keep working to get help.Hypochondria is still a medical condition, it can still be treated.
But I don’t believe (not a doctor) it actually transverses physical conditions like back pain and vomiting.
So maybe it’s both? Mental health is still medical.Seriously, don’t give up of actual qualified medical help. Keep trying, keep going until you are happy.
This is key: keep going until you get the help you need
FYI, this person has posted this same question over and over, and hasn’t seemed to absorb any of the answers.
And deleted all their comments too.
By the way, wherever happened to the age-gap relationship poster?
Don’t know, got banned too many times for ban evasion and got the hint I hope.
This sounds very good, what did I miss? Does lemmy have a lemmy community drama community yet?
There was a poster who’d ask what we thought about age-gap relationships, spin elaborate relationship scenarios, rage-bait by insisting that any gap of more than about 2 years was disgusting, argue with anybody who said otherwise, delete the post, and then post something very similar days or weeks later. Very similar MO to this poster, coincidentally.
This is such a specific manifestation of mental illness. I know I shouldn’t be but I’m fascinated.
Wish they’d go do it on 4chan or whatever weird corner of the Internet weirdos have scattered to now
They would also go on rants about how heros are bad because they lie to people about their secret identity.
So I’m lost. What would a bait post gain the poster?
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You really need to get checked out.
