• sorter_plainview@lemmy.today
    3·
    3 hours ago

    Warning: This account is a corporate shill posting content showing of this new app or mentioning the app whenever is possible. They are advertising it passively.

    Take your advertisement with you and go away.

    • athatet@lemmy.zip
      81·
      15 hours ago

      Nah it’s cool. They are just on silent in the dishwasher. He will find them eventually. Or not 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • JoeyHarrington@lemmy.ca
    6·
    14 hours ago

    I can’t wait for the next time this is reposted. This is the new steak rare or well done thread.

    • whaleross@lemmy.worldEnglish
      187·
      18 hours ago

      I’m going to start vending NFT pearl necklaces for the chronically online to virtually clutch. Order now and get a GASP sticker.

      • TrickDacy@lemmy.world
        139·
        17 hours ago

        Ah classic move. “I disagree with some people and therefore they are bad for being [some word or phrase I pulled from my ass]. They clutch PEARLS! Aren’t I so clever? and they’re so bad but I’m above that”

            • whaleross@lemmy.worldEnglish
              84·
              16 hours ago

              Oh dear. You kids would have died by regular banter on the old internets.

              I barely dare mention it was just a few hours of dial-up screen time a day, on the shared family computer… and only if you did your chores.

              So you should really be more tolerant with this irreparable trauma we carry.

              • jaybone@lemmy.zipEnglish
                14·
                15 hours ago

                I like this internet fight where both parties are being downvoted. Just posting here to get mine too. ❤️

                • whaleross@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  31·
                  15 hours ago

                  A word of advice with the best of intentions:

                  Don’t get so worked up about shit online.

                  A lazy teen not having access to their phone for some fifteen minutes because they haven’t done their chores in four hours isn’t the end of the world for them.

                  It certainly shouldn’t push your cortisol levels through the roof either.

                  For all we know none of this is even true.

  • thezeesystem@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    731·
    20 hours ago

    That’s so innovated! Instead of talking to your kid and helping them understand with compassion and understanding. Traumatizing them is so much better! That way in the future if they forgot to do what the master father says they have anxiety attacks! Brilliant!

  • Gladaed@feddit.org
    1845·
    20 hours ago

    Hiding stuff to teach people a lesson is potentially traumatic and not particularly… Nice? Effective?

    Just beat up your children already if you cannot be arsed to parent effectively.

    Edit: guess that was a bit off base. But who does this and why is this a win or something to be celebrated? This is bad and harmful parenting to me and should be condemned in an age where we know better.

        • Akasazh@lemmy.worldEnglish
          275·
          19 hours ago

          There’s a vast difference in psychological impact between doing it periodically or constantly.

          One is quite ok and teasingly getting a point across, the other one is abuse.

          • sem@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            42·
            17 hours ago

            Especially if you already told them out to immediately find it, they just haven’t realized it yet.

            On the second hand, you’d have to consider that they might not be able to concentrate on emptying the dishwasher if their phone is missing. That would clock as a higher priority to me and I’m not even a teenager.

        • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
          82·
          16 hours ago

          If somebody has to “constantly” do something to try to teach you a lesson, maybe you’re just too stupid to learn.

    • NaibofTabr@infosec.pubEnglish
      216·
      20 hours ago

      This is bad and harmful parenting to me and should be condemned in an age where we know better.

      Compared to what?

      Quite literally in the age immediately prior to this one, the method of teaching the lesson would’ve been direct physical punishment of the go-get-me-a-switch variety.

        • mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          13·
          8 hours ago

          So you saying parents should take things away as punishment, but then you go nuts when a parent/grandparent takes the kid’s phone away as punishment? JFC at least be consistent

          • Gladaed@feddit.org
            414·
            18 hours ago

            Taking away things is fine. But consequences should be communicated and expected. Just hiding something to teach them a lesson tends to be ineffective. People are often outraged when parents do such a thing. Well. In particular if those things are a medical necessity such as a inhaler or a even a phone if you have medical devices that use it as an interface.

            • mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
              41·
              13 hours ago

              In particular if those things are a medical necessity such as a inhaler or a even a phone if you have medical devices that use it as an interface.

              This is an absolutely ridiculous assumption to make given how little information we’re given.

              You desperately need to go touch grass right now

        • sem@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          62·
          17 hours ago

          I read the last article, here’s what stood out to me: the importance of stating the consequence in advance, and the importance of there being a logical connection between the “crime and punishment,” so to speak.

          in addition to making sure your child is old enough to understand this type of consequence, a crucial part of using the tactic of taking something away is that parents should clearly state the punishment upfront.

          “The important piece of this approach to discipline is to establish these consequences in advance (i.e. ‘if you don’t clean up your room, you will lose the ability to play with your LEGOs tonight’). As a reactive form of punishment, taking away privileges seems random and fails to establish the connection between a behavior and a consequence,” Fox notes. “When set up in advance, it gives the child a choice — if they don’t make their bed, they are choosing to not be allowed to play with their LEGOs. The sooner we set up this sense of accountability, the less discipline we’ll have to do over the long term.”

          Another consideration that experts say can be made in addition to making sure the consequence is outlined ahead of time, is that your child can make the appropriate connection between their actions and the punishment.

          “It’s very important for parents to make a connection between the behavior and what is being taken away, particularly as a child gets older. For instance, if they fail to obey rules around devices or video games, it makes sense to take those away as punishment,” Fox tells Romper. “On the other hand, if they can’t be nice to their sister, they don’t get to spend time with their friends — this sends the message that if they can’t be nice to this person, they don’t get to hang out with that person. As parents, you have to make the connection to the consequence for the child because their brain just doesn’t yet work that way.”

          Re: the logical consequence, from my own childhood, in elementary school my teachers and parents came up with a behavioral contract where, if i didn’t do my homework, i couldn’t play with my friends after school. Since i couldn’t fathom ever being able to finish my homework, i just accepted the fact that i couldn’t be friends anymore with my friends. I don’t think that worked long term.

            • Demdaru@lemmy.world
              1·
              3 hours ago

              Not who you responded to but had similiar moments. Path of least resistance. Some tasks lock me to all hell, so if these are put before with some consequence if I fail, rather than doing them, I start working on mitigatign the incoming consequence.

              From adult life: Washing dishes is hard for me. Not washing dishes causes dirty, rotting sink. So I limited myself to one plate, one bowl etc. in an effort of limiting consequences. If I don’t manage to wash the dishes, worst case scenario I have very limited amount of stuff rotting, which is also easier to clean up when I manage to get to it.

              Can see it in op example: Doing homework is almost impossible, leaving out friends sucks, limit friends to lessen the impact of not doing homework.

          • Gladaed@feddit.org
            14·
            17 hours ago

            That’s not an acceptable punishment and I am sorry. It’s very important for tasks to be manageable.

            I believe we were asked to just stop and be done after 30 minutes.

    • makeshift0546@lemmy.today
      101·
      18 hours ago

      👌👍😂😂😂😂😂😂 absolutely fantastic job of broadcasting why you should be nowhere near children. Jesus Christ dude 😂

    • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
      61·
      16 hours ago

      Right, much better to raise them to not have any responsibility or know how to do anything, because their parents will be there to do everything for them.

    • remon@ani.social
      514·
      20 hours ago

      Yeah, he should just tell the kid it’s awesome, buy her a new phone and empty the fucking dishwasher himself instead of forcing this grandkids into slavery!

      • Gladaed@feddit.org
        78·
        20 hours ago

        There are effective teaching methods between hiding stuff to cause anguish and coddling your children.

        • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafeEnglish
          54·
          15 hours ago

          Anguish?

          It’s a fucking phone.

          This is the shit “boomers” talk about when they say “kids today are soft”.

          Good job proving a “boomer” right.

          (Yes, boomer in quotes because it’s the kind of shit people like you say).