When “doing it”, are you regularly thinking about putting clothes away, which clothes to wash next or if you emptied the washing machine? Or when you washed your clothes the last time?
Is it distracting to the point you get soft (for penis havers) or dry (for ADHDers with vaginas)?
I have to actively keep myself focussed on sex by fantasizing some scene or story to myself. Just actually having sex isn’t enough, not because I’m not into it or not enjoying it. It’s just that if I don’t fill my mind with something sexy it’s going to get full with chores, or dinner options, or the way the bed squeaks… And then I’m completely out the moment.
The only thing that ever interferes with my ability to perform is being nervous. If this is a new partner, or we are in a location that isn’t completely secure, that will make it more difficult to stay in the mood.
Definitely never had laundry pop in my head during the deed.
Not really. With medications and nerves I’ve run the gamut from premature to fully unable to finish, and this is not something I usually have trouble with. Maybe its because I am in a BDSM couple and often my focus is already split between the physical sensations and the work needed to make a scene good for my partner. Sex is engaging enough I generally get hyperfocused rather than having intrusive chore thoughts.
lurking for other’s responses…
I have never been distracted from sexy time, definitely one of the things I can hyperfixate on. Sometimes I try to distract myself to avoid cumming by thinking about something else, and that is difficult to maintain for very long before my mind drifts back. The few times I’ve gone soft was because the other person lost interest partway through and the mood was lost.
I also have a very high sex drive so can easily imagine getting distracted if that drive wasn’t as strong.
I’m asexual and I do that sort of stuff. Not the laundry in particular but my mind does start to wander.